Finding Casual Encounters

Casual encounters are the perfect combination of excitement, intimacy, and no strings attached. When you're looking for something hot that won't impact the rest of your life, a casual encounter is the first thing that comes to mind. Some casual encounters turn into long-term friends-with-benefits situations, while others are one-time-only. Either way, many people find the idea of a casual encounter a huge turn-on.

But with the demise of Craigslist's casual encounters listings, where should you go to find this special kind of fun? You may be surprised to find out that there are lots of other people out there looking for a casual encounter; the hard part is knowing where to find them. Lucky for you, we have lots of insider tips on how to find a casual encounter of your own. Read on.


Craigslist is out of the casual encounters game, but anyone who used it knows it didn't have a great success rate anyways. Luckily, there are other excellent places to look for casual encounters online.


Feeld is a dating app for couples and singles, available for Android and iPhone. It allows couples to link their profiles together so they can seek others as a pair. Similar to Tinder, you like or pass on profiles, and if you match you chat, exchange more pictures, and arrange an in-person meetup.

It can take a while to find compatible matches on Feeld, but it is possible to find amazing casual encounters. Everyone there is looking for something casual--sometimes ongoing, sometimes not. And Feeld works in many major cities around the world, so it can be great when travelling too.

If there's enough interest, we may write up a tips & tricks guide to getting the best casual encounters with Feeld.

Cafe Desire

Cafe Desire is a swingers' website that's been around a while, so there are lots of members actively looking for casual encounters. The age range is a little older here--lots of people 40-60+--but there are plenty of 20s and 30s as well.

One of the best features is the "booty call", where you can look for singles and couples available on a specific day (such as today!), and add yourself to the list. This makes planning easier, since you're already filtering for people who are available on the same day that you are.

The website is not all that modern (hello 1990s nostalgia), but it all works well once you figure it out. Definitely best on a PC and not a smartphone.


#open is a new attempt at a dating app for the inclusive, sex-positive community. While many new apps have come and gone over the years, this one appears to be backed by people who really understand what open people are looking for. It had may bugs at first, but is getting better with every release.

A common issue with new dating apps is that there aren't enough people on there to find anyone compatible. #open is gradually gaining in popularity, so give it a shot, and keep checking back as new people join.

Offline (the real world)

Even though apps have become incredibly popular for finding a casual encounter, there are many options for finding one in the real world. 

Swingers Clubs

Swingers clubs are a a great place to find a casual encounter, since that's mainly why they were created. Most clubs only allow male-female couples some of the time, and single men other times, so check before you go.

There's an awful lot to learn about how to successfully have a casual encounter at a swingers club. If this is something you're interested in learning more about, let us know. This is a topic we may dive deep into, if there's interest.

If you live in Toronto, check out our list of clubs.

Meetup Groups

Many large cities have groups of people in open relationships who meet-up regularly. While these are not necessarily places to find casual encounters directly, if you attend events and get to know enough people, you're bound to find people who are also looking for casual encounters.

Search Meetup for things like "open relationship", "polyamory", and "swinging".

Private Parties

There are lots of private sex parties happening in many major cities, Toronto included. Finding them is tricky--they're called private parties for a reason. But once you do get invited to a private party, and assuming you behave well, you'll soon learn about lots of other parties you never knew existed.

We can't give you information on specific parties, but if you're interested in learning how to get into this scene, let us know, and we'll explore this in a future series.

July 27, 2019
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